My friends have shown surprising qualities in the aftermath of this break-up. Ones I had down as incurable romantics have sternly told me to step away from the phone and place my hands where they can see them. Ones that seemed to exist on rage and hatred of all things male have surprisingly turned out to be indefatigable cheerleaders of Love FC.
All this has got me thinking of the role our Friends play in these Days of Our Lives.
While I've been pining and longing and missing and mourning the loss of my one relationship a friend of mine has fallen in love, embarked on a long-distance relationship, started planning a future and preparing for a move to his country TWICE! Second time around she even managed to get engaged! And all this happened in the span of a couple of months!
If this were a Kate Hudson rom-com we'd all be rolling our eyes and telling the heroine to get a grip: this kind of things just don't happen in real life. But in that real life what do we, friends, do? Do we try to talk some sense into our friends or do we allow ourselves, too, be seduced into believing that this kind of things just could happen and we should be happy for our friends?
We love our friends, so naturally we want to protect them, right? But which way do we succeed in that better? By putting the breaks on and telling them there's something fishy about the guy they just met and are haplessly falling in love with? Or by supporting them and allowing them to live through those heady feelings and believing that there just might be a happy end after all?
And as for those Kate Hudson rom-coms... Are they written for desperate lonely women hungry for love or were they written inspired by the real life love stories that defied common sense? Thrones have been abdicated and cities taken over- all in the name of love.
In the end... Kate Hudson always gets the guy. And sometimes, in real life... so do we.
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